<![CDATA[our journey to you - adoption - adoption blog]]>Fri, 20 Oct 2017 09:21:37 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[You...We...Your children  do not have to be reduced-we can be MORE, not less...]]>Mon, 23 May 2016 19:05:07 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/youweyour-children-do-not-have-to-be-reduced-we-can-be-more
Dear Parents,
Do not let yourself be reduced by what has happened to you...do not let your child be reduced by what has happened to them. The greatest strength is in deciding how you will use what you know, the experiences you have been through--that you can use them to make you stronger. We do not have to be defined by anything we do not want to be and we CAN be MORE and not LESS because we made our way through it. ‪#‎adoption‬ ‪#‎parenting‬ ‪#‎love‬ ‪#‎strength
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<![CDATA[The grass is always greener]]>Mon, 09 May 2016 15:06:53 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/the-grass-is-always-greenerDear Parents, Water yourself, water your spouse, water your kiddos! Time does this- love does this- effort does this. GO GREEN, today! (and ignore everyone elses grass- comparison is the thief of joy!)   #adoption #love #parenting
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<![CDATA[EVERY . SINGLE . ONE!    #adoption #permanence #family #love]]>Mon, 02 May 2016 21:44:45 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/every-single-one-adoption-permanence-family-love]]><![CDATA[the true purpose of adoption....]]>Fri, 29 Apr 2016 10:56:10 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/the-true-purpose-of-adoptionDear Parents, "What is important?" I asked myself this weekend as I heard from a family that they had been rejected because of age. Warm, vibrant, active, loving people who are ready to welcome a child into their lives and hearts forever--rejected because of arbitrary #'s. I am truly upset by agencies and entities who create magic numbers relating to the ages of potential parents that they will accept. If ‪#‎adoption‬ truly is about providing families and homes to children who need them then these ages should not be as important as some agencies are making them? Are any of us promised another day on this earth? My sweet mommy was in her 20's when I was adopted and died in her early 50's--I would not have traded her for someone I could have had for longer--I could not have been more loved and that love will last a lifetime  There are 40 and 50-year old people who would like to provide families for children who are turned away because of their age yet they may have even more time with the children they adopted then I did with my mommy. This seems unfair to all parties. Families should be in good health and should have a home that is safe and full of love--period. I love to see empty nesters start second families through ‪#‎fostercare‬  Are these agencies not taking the right view on the purpose of adoption?What do you think the most important considerations should be when allowing families to be approved for adoption?
May we all remember...
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<![CDATA[the real purpose of adoption...]]>Tue, 26 Apr 2016 01:06:29 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/the-real-purpose-of-adoptionDear Parents,
"What is important?"  I asked myself this weekend as I heard from a family that they had been rejected because of age. Warm, vibrant, active, loving people who are ready to welcome a child into their lives and hearts forever--rejected because of arbitrary #'s. I am truly upset by agencies and entities who create magic numbers relating to the ages of potential parents that they will accept. If ‪#‎adoption‬ truly is about providing families and homes to children who need them then these ages should not be as important as some agencies are making them? Are any of us promised another day on this earth? My sweet mommy was in her 20's when I was adopted and died in her early 50's--I would not have traded her for someone I could have had for longer--I could not have been more loved and that love will last a lifetime heart emoticon There are 40 and 50-year old people who would like to provide families for children who are turned away beccause of their age yet they may have even more time with the children they adopted then I did with my mommy. This seems unfair to all parties. Families should be in good health and should have a home that is safe and full of love--period. ((I love to see empty nesters start second families through ‪#‎fostercare. ))

Are these agencies not taking the right view on the purpose of adoption?What do you think the most important considerations should be when allowing families to be approved for adoption?

May we all remember...
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<![CDATA[You have to listen now so your child will come to you later...]]>Wed, 13 Apr 2016 16:15:19 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/you-have-to-listen-now-so-your-child-will-come-to-you-laterDear ‪#‎Parents‬, This is so true. While you may not initiate ‪#‎adoption‬ questions with your child all the time- you will be the one who begins the conversation by honestly and age-appropriately sharing your child's story with them. YOU are the one that will create an open-door policy for them to ask questions and feel comfortable coming to you with their feelings. If you create this environment of love and acceptance and willingness to listen to their feelings without judgement or hurrying them or dismissing them then you are laying the groundwork for them to come to you about #adoption or about anything that is affecting them or their life. No one ever learned anything new by talking- it will be by listening that you learn what is truly on your child's mind and in their heart. 
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<![CDATA[ALL OF IT!]]>Tue, 12 Apr 2016 20:43:43 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/all-of-itDear parents,  Don't base your family or your parenting or your child on one day, or a difficult morning before school.  Family is for every minute of the journey...the good, the bad and the ugly- that is what makes family special whether you are born in to that family or is family that chose one another. #adoption #parenting #love #family
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<![CDATA[it is NO joke.... #AprilFoolsDay ]]>Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:41:42 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/it-is-no-joke-aprilfoolsdayno, not all ‪#‎adoption‬ journeys stem from ‪#‎infertility‬ or pregnancy loss- but I think it is something we as women, as human beings, as people who love children can be conscious of. There are those around us who are fighting battles and loss we may know nothing about. For those of you who have experienced that loss and pain- I am thinking of you ((hugs)) If we share, perhaps others will think before they do things like this that mean little to their grand scheme but that can reopen barely healed wounds for another.  ‪#‎pregnancyjoke‬ ‪#‎aprilFoolsday‬ ‪#‎notfunny‬
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<![CDATA[Adjust your sails, my friend...]]>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:39:59 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/adjust-your-sails-my-friendPicture
Dear Parents, There will always be storms in life- whether you are the parent or the child, whether you adopted or gave birth, whether you are adopted or not, whether you are a singleton or a triplet, whether you are buxom or slight, black or white... ADJUST YOUR SAILS, sweet friend- and help teach your kiddos to do the same- just seeing you do it is the first step. 
 ‪#‎adoption‬ ‪#‎parenting‬ ‪#‎love‬ 
‪#‎BeTheParent‬

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<![CDATA[TRUTH...ALWAYS.]]>Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:34:02 GMThttp://ourjourneytoyouadoption.com/adoption-blog/truthalwaysPicture
Dear Parents,
There is a problem I see far too often. Some parents feel confused or conflicted or are not sure how to start the conversation but it is one that must be had. THERE MUST NEVER BE A TIME YOUR CHILD DOES NOT KNOW THEY ARE ADOPTED. It does not mean you will LIVE IN IT- it does not mean that you will share the more adult parts of the story at non-age-appropriate times or that you will spruce up the story- it means that he or she will just always know- it will alw
ays just be a part of their story. It means there will not be a traumatic memory of when they "found out". It means that they can trust what you tell them because you have ALWAYS told them the truth. I have seen many situations where folks have tried to justify keeping their child's adoption a secret-- I want to make this easy for you-- There IS NOT a situation that justifies keeping a child's adoption from them. NONE. Not ever. The truth and the story is your child's-- share it with them from the start in age appropriate ways and always with honesty. This does not take from your relationship with your child- it will make it stronger. 
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DearParents‬
 ‪#‎adoption‬ ‪#‎truth‬ 
‪#‎love‬

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