no, not all #adoption journeys stem from #infertility or pregnancy loss- but I think it is something we as women, as human beings, as people who love children can be conscious of. There are those around us who are fighting battles and loss we may know nothing about. For those of you who have experienced that loss and pain- I am thinking of you ((hugs)) If we share, perhaps others will think before they do things like this that mean little to their grand scheme but that can reopen barely healed wounds for another. #pregnancyjoke #aprilFoolsday #notfunny
Dear Parents, There will always be storms in life- whether you are the parent or the child, whether you adopted or gave birth, whether you are adopted or not, whether you are a singleton or a triplet, whether you are buxom or slight, black or white... ADJUST YOUR SAILS, sweet friend- and help teach your kiddos to do the same- just seeing you do it is the first step.
#adoption #parenting #love #BeTheParent
There is a problem I see far too often. Some parents feel confused or conflicted or are not sure how to start the conversation but it is one that must be had. THERE MUST NEVER BE A TIME YOUR CHILD DOES NOT KNOW THEY ARE ADOPTED. It does not mean you will LIVE IN IT- it does not mean that you will share the more adult parts of the story at non-age-appropriate times or that you will spruce up the story- it means that he or she will just always know- it will always just be a part of their story. It means there will not be a traumatic memory of when they "found out". It means that they can trust what you tell them because you have ALWAYS told them the truth. I have seen many situations where folks have tried to justify keeping their child's adoption a secret-- I want to make this easy for you-- There IS NOT a situation that justifies keeping a child's adoption from them. NONE. Not ever. The truth and the story is your child's-- share it with them from the start in age appropriate ways and always with honesty. This does not take from your relationship with your child- it will make it stronger.
#DearParents #adoption #truth #love
I have been spring cleaning this week and yesterday came across the drawers that held 100's of letters between my grandparents, my parents and many I wrote to my grandmothers and great-grandmothers when I was a little girl. I found a treasure trove of pictures of these sweet people loving me and doting on little me, so many years ago. I came across boxes that held my grandmother's wedding veil and hand sewn lace that was lovingly made by someone who came generations before me in my family. As I touched each item and felt my heart swell at each picture I laughed, I cried and I counted my many blessings. I am so blessed to have been loved- truly loved by so many people in my family and I did not share DNA with even one of them. Having been adopted did not take away from anything I have shared with these amazing people. #adoption #parenting #love #family I hope if you feel the same way, you will SHARE.
My sweet mommy was so wise; years do go by so quickly for parents and children-- don't leave regrets-- enjoy each one however it comes. My mom left a note in my lunch box every day when she packed my lunch and it was one of the highlights of my day . She truly spoke life into us and built us up. It didn't matter if I was adopted and my sister was not... it didn't matter if school came easy to my sister and I struggled a bit more ...it didn't matter how my day was going otherwise --she spoke life ! It is amazing how it truly is the little things that we remember and make the biggest difference-- just look at my lunch napkins. I keep this one framed on my desk. I hope you have a wonderful weekend filled with the little things!#adoption #parenting #betheparent #dearparents
Author- Madeleine Melcher
Adoptee, mom to 3 blessings of adoption, author, creator of adoption profiles, taxi driver, boo-boo kisser, tutor, lover of books and bedtime snuggles, friend forever and imperfect child of God.
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